Preach it!

On vacation in Philly, I asked our Lyft driver if she liked the work, and she asked what kind of work Chris and I do. After a while, she took a big breath, said she understood I was “off duty” – are we ever? – but wondered if she could ask me for some advice. Sure, I said, wondering what was coming next.
She told me she’d been a Christian for 25 years, and she still believes in Jesus, but lately she’s been having a lot of trouble with Christianity because of the way it’s being used to justify things that don’t seem Christian to her, and she named some examples. I won’t repeat the entire conversation, but we did think a little about what Jesus would say if he were standing at the border today.
She said she prayed every morning for God to fix this sorry world, and then she prayed for God to tell her what she could do about it. I told her I thought she was asking the right questions, and the only “advice” I had was to keep praying and stay true to her faith in Jesus.
Later, I thought about how much courage it would take to start a conversation like that with a stranger, especially when that stranger just admitted to being a Christian preacher.
And later still, I wondered which one of us was actually doing the preaching.
She does like the work, by the way. Because, she said, I have conversations like this.
Me, too.

Do you see what I see?

Carrying the camera day after day through familiar territory is just a way to practice looking. Sometimes you find yourself taking the same picture over and over again, like the rise, just to see if you can get it better. And sometimes you come across something you’ve never seen before, and you know you better be ready, because there won’t be a second chance.

Life in the city

The rose has been cultivated beside a city sidewalk, a block or two away from the men sleeping on a grate in yesterday’s photo. Some forms of life deserve that kind of care, it would seem, while others are problem whose solution eludes us.

 

Train from better days now arriving

In their later years, with little provocation, my parents would perform their “better days” riff. It would begin with one of them saying, “Things were better when we were young.” They’d go back and forth for a while affirming and embellishing that statement, until finally one of them would shrug and say, “Well, I guess things were better as long as you were white, Christian, and maybe a few other things.” And they’d shake their heads and there it would end, at least until the next time.

Even in their regret for a time when the world felt safer to them, they had a generosity of spirit that allowed them to see that things weren’t better back then for everyone. They missed those days when their lives really were simpler—if not without hardship, including depression and war—but they also understood that by chance they enjoyed advantages which—also by chance—others lacked.

The greatness of the American experiment in freedom lies in setting a glorious ideal of liberty and justice for all, then continuing to do what’s necessary to include anyone who’s been left out. It’s never been perfect, and maybe it never will be. But patriotism isn’t about pretending that it is. It’s the ongoing commitment to honor the ideal by aspiring to achieve it.

So little time

I wonder if the flower would seem so exquisitely beautiful if its time weren’t so short, if full bloom wasn’t also the beginning of fading away to nothing.

Yesterday by chance I came across a note I’d typed out on my computer for a parishioner early in 2016. He asked for a quotation I’d included in my sermon that week, from the book “When Breath Becomes Air,” by Paul Kalanithi, the brilliant young neurosurgeon who had just begun his final year of training when he was diagnosed with advanced lung cancer. He went on with his work as chief resident, decided with his wife to have a child, and began writing his memoir. Kalanithi knew he was dying, but until death came he was going to live.

His wife finished his beautiful and heart-wrenching book after he died. In her epilogue, Lucy Kalanithi summarizes their story in one sentence that is as full of truth about life and pain and meaning as anything I have ever read:

“Although these last few years have been wrenching and difficult—sometimes almost impossible—they have also been the most beautiful and profound of my life, requiring the daily act of holding life and death, joy and pain in balance and exploring new depths of gratitude and love.”

My parishioner’s wife of 67 years died six months after he asked me for the quote. Two weeks ago, we buried him. Yesterday, I visited their daughter in hospice. Seeing her parents’ picture on a dresser in that room brought them both alive for me again, just for a moment.

Life and death, joy and pain. Would human life and love be so exquisitely beautiful, I wonder, if our time were not so short?

Planted

In the distance ahead, the meetinghouse where I was married 40 years ago come October. It sits by a busy country road and when the doors and windows are open on a fine morning, the building hums with the sound of passing traffic. But this spot is set back so far from the road that it’s quiet here, except for birds and insects.

This is the spot where I expect what’s left of me when this life is done to rest for eternity, here in close proximity to some I knew before their time came. I didn’t choose the spot; I suppose you could say it chose me, but that’s a long story.

For most of my life I’ve felt uprooted, and I’ve wondered what it might have been like to be raised where my parents and their parents grew up, to be supported by connections that were already in place before I was as much as a thought in their minds. We moved when I was not quite 5, again a year or so later, and again two years after that, and from then on I’ve never been able to shake the feeling of not quite belonging the way other people did, wherever I lived.

I’ve come close now, having lived in this community these 40 years, and yet the security of being truly grounded is still elusive. I’ve grieved its absence, longed for it, and yet I wonder what it will be like to be planted, finally, in one place.

I’ve been reading a book called Lab Girl by Hope Jahren, which includes some wonderful reflections on trees and life, including this:

No risk is more terrifying than that taken by the first root. A lucky root will eventually find water, but its first job is to anchor—and to anchor an embryo and forever end its mobile phase, however passive that mobility was. Once the root is extended, the plant will never again enjoy any hope (however feeble) of relocating to a place less cold, less dry, less dangerous. Indeed, it will face frost, drought, and greedy jaws without any possibility of flight. The tiny rootlet has only one chance to guess what the future years, decades—even centuries—will bring to the patch of soil where it sits. It assesses the light and humidity of the moment, refers to its programming, and quite literally takes the plunge.

Everything is risked in that one moment when the first cells (the “hypocotyl”) advance from the seed coat. The root grows down before the shoot grows up, and so there is no possibility for green tissue to make new food for several days or even weeks. Rooting exhausts the very last reserves of the seed. The gamble is everything, and losing means death. The odds are more than a million to one against success.

But when it wins, it wins big.